This week I want to highlight other hopeful adoptive families. My reasoning is simple. My hope is, that if a young woman considering adoption visits our blog and decides we aren't the right family for her and her baby, she may find another couple who just may be the right ones. So in highlighting other couples, if I can help just 1 birthmom find her family, I will be happy.
The first family I wanted to spotlight are dear friends of ours. I've talked about them before and in fact their blog button is on the sidebar.
We met Mike and Tammy at church when we lived in New Mexico. They are an amazing, quirky, fun, couple and we are proud to call them our friends. So take a minute and get to know Mike and Tammy. If you or someone you know if considering adoption, they may just be the couple for you.
It has been said:
"A Birthmother puts the needs of her child above the wants of her heart."
- Skye Hardwick
As we sit here wondering what to say, our hearts are filled with gratitude, love and admiration for you. We recognize the selfless love you have for your child, and admire you for the strength you are putting forth. Though we cannot begin to understand how difficult your decision is, we are so eternally grateful for your choice of looking into adoption.
We realize that your decision can only be made with a great deal of thought and effort and we hope to be able to help you by telling you a little bit about us:
Mike was raised in a family of 5 children. He maintains a very close relationship with his parents and each of his siblings. We only live about 6 hours away from Mike's parents, and we try to see them as often as we can. Mike went into the Army right after high school, where he was able to travel to Italy, Korea, and around the United States. After his time in the Army, Mike went to college and graduated in 2005 with a Bachelor's Degree in Electrical Engineering Technology. Mike loves to read, ride horses at his parents’ house, watch sports, hike and travel.
Tammy lived most of her life with her mom, step-dad and 4 siblings. Tammy is very close to her family and loves spending time with them. She has always loved public speaking, drama, and has spent a great deal of her time on stage performing in church and school plays. Tammy is pursuing her degree in Graphic/Web Design. Tammy loves to read, bake, party plan, blog, travel, and dabble in desktop publishing.
We have been married for a little over 4 years, and having children has always been a top priority for us. However, we have been met with heartache and sorrow in our efforts. We were able to conceive, but every pregnancy has been unsuccessful. Not being able to have children has been a challenge, because we feel we have much to offer a child.
We both love to laugh, be silly, and have fun. We make up jokes, funny sayings, dances, and games to keep life fun and interesting. We are huge movie buffs and go every chance we get. We also love to take road trips. We like to see the beautiful country and explore new places. We also love to play board games, whether it is just the two of us or a big group. We enjoy taking walks around our neighborhood and riding 4-wheelers in the mountains. We are very active in church and love to attend the temple as often as we can.
Adoption is very much a part of our lives already. Tammy's aunt and uncle adopted her cousin when she was just a baby. After she was adopted, they went on to have 4 more children, and they all look like their older sister!
Several years ago, Tammy's brother and his girlfriend found out they were pregnant and decided that they were not ready to be parents. After much consideration, thought and prayer, they decided to place their son for adoption. We are all comforted by the fact that their son is with parents who adore him and that he is very happy.
Mike's sister and her husband have 3 children and decided they wanted to expand their family, so they are in the process of adopting a little boy from Tonga. He should be with them soon. We can't wait to meet our new nephew!
We are interested in open adoption. We are going to be very upfront about the fact that our child is adopted. We feel it is important for them to understand their entire history. We want them to know that they were not "given up" but given life. We feel like this is in the best interest of everyone involved. We feel that an open adoption will provide answers that we alone would not be able to provide. We also think that it will provide security and stability for our child regarding their adoption. However, we know that the decision regarding the level of contact we maintain will be mutual between us and you.
Thank you for taking the time to learn a little more about us. As you view our profile, please know that we will never be perfect parents, but we will do our best each and every day to provide a safe, loving, and spiritual home to our child.
We welcome any questions you have. Please feel free to take a look at our adoption blog oureternalcircle.blogspot.com or contact us directly through email.
Whether you choose us, another couple, or to parent your child yourself, please know that you are in our prayers and we wish you peace in your decision.
Mike and Tammy
Mike & Tammy's blog has even more info about them, and all their contact info: Our Eternal Circle
Also, check out their profile, get to know them, and see even more pictures on LDSFS: Our Message